There’s a lot going on about Feminsim these days, what is feminism, how a feminist woman should react to certain things and how feminist women should treat other women without being hypocritical about their feminist beliefs. I hear a lot and I want to express my opinion about it because not many people, including my friends, understand what I’m really saying. And I cannot believe we’re in 2016 and we still have to fight for this.
Feminism as a definition is: ‘a range of political movements, ideologies and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women.Feminist movements have campaigned and continue to campaign for women’s rights, including the right to vote, to hold public office, to work, to earn fair wages or equal pay, to own property, to receive education, to enter contracts, to have equal rights within marriage, and to have maternity leave. Feminists have also worked to promote bodily autonomy and integrity, and to protect women and girls from rape, sexual harassment, and domestic violence.’ And that’s the definition as found on Wikipedia.
Emma Watson a Goodwill Ambassador explains it perfectly in this video: https://youtu.be/c9SUAcNlVQ4
When we talk about a Feminist woman, what comes to mind is a woman that hates men and that she just wants to be equal to a man. Whether this means a better salary or a power position to an indusrty (a boss, a director, manager etc). I mean what? Yes, there are many ‘feminist groups’ that literally advocate this meaning. And I do not agree with them. I am a feminist. I do not hate men. I believe that women and men should have equal rights, but that does not mean that women should have the rights that men have and that men should not have rights that women have.
Men are also being criticized about doing things that are meant for women to do. ‘Stay at home dad ? This is a woman thing, you should be at work and let everything to a woman, for what invloves the baby.’ Like, really? ‘You can’t be a ballet dancer that’s for women’ or ‘you shouldn’t cook, women cook’, ‘don’t do the dishes, you are a man’,’men don’t cry’ and the list goes on and on. Men should feel free to do as they please too. Discrimination is not just about women anymore.
Women, until this day, all over the world, are discriminated, ashamed for being women, they are denied education, work and even critisized about wearing everyday clothes that in other countries is a normal thing to do. They are forced to wear long black dresses and hide their faces behind a veil. Because being a woman is not modest enough if you do not cover your whole body and face. I know that many women want to wear the burqa, niqab, hijab because that’s what they are taught to do and feel comfortable and I understand that, and they should as long as this is what they want. I do not criticize that. I criticize the fact that they have no other option, to do as they trully want.
Another thing that makes me really mad, is when a woman sees another woman, let’s say, wearing short-shorts or a short skirt or makeup or having unshaved legs or armpits, and comes to conclusion that she does not ‘respect herself as a woman, dressing like that, she’s asking for it ‘ or’ shes is not ladylike’ . I actually had that conversation with a friend of mine, about unshaved armpits and the first thin she said was ‘that’s not ladylike you are not a man, you are a woman.’ But who set up rules about how a woman should look like or behave ? Why should I do as the society tells me to? They are just trying to control us, to make us sheep, to follow certain rules, about how we should look or behave and I do not accept that. If I want to be a wrestler or a football player, or do car recing, I will, who are you to judge me? Huh??
Ok let’s calm down now. Do not missunderstand me, I am not talking about EVERY rule that a society might have. Just the ones about our appearances.
Judging another women for not shaving is not feminist. Judging a woman for being a stay-at-home-mom and doesn’t want to work is not feminist. Judging a woman for wearing shorts is not feminist. Jugding a woman for having a carreer and doesn’t want to have a baby right now is not feminist. It is all about accepting each other as we are. You can’t call yourself a feminist, if you do not accept other women for what they want and believe.
What is your opinion about feminsim?